WE ARE TALKING OF A WOMAN IN CRISIS

Schola and Patrick on 10th December 2011 on her wedding day

Scholastica Omar is her name after getting married to Omar Patrick,a born again christian,who loves his wife his new bride .shcolastica got married to Patrick on 10th December 2011.she is about 11  months in her marriage. Schola is 32 years old.

Schola and Patrick on their engagement day

March was the beginning of what has led Schola into the situation she is in today.I truly dont know exactly what to describe her situation but it fits well the term I use in this ministry "CRISIS".In March this year,Schola begun falling sick suffering from severe stomach aches and different sicknesses,when she was taken to the hospital,she was diognised with ulcers which was severe,and also was found pregnant at the same time.She had colic abdominal pains on and off,when she seemed not to pick up,she was taken back to the hospital and had a general check up she was found with what the Doctor termed as Gross Ascites due to inflamed cells,TB Peritonitis, at this point she got admitted because she was already deteriorating a lot and at a very high speed.when things didn't improve,she was transferred to Mulago hospital in Kampala the big city of Uganda and the treatment there was still not so good so she developed also malnutrition and yet she was still carrying her baby and the baby was growing  by God's grace,she had persistent Hiccups and vomiting freq
uently this all contributed to her malnutrition. Schola could not get all the treatment she needed because she was carrying life in the inside of her and the doctors had to be very careful with what they are giving her.

Schola in yellow on her engagement day

So the doctors advised her husband to transfer her to a better hospital Nakasero hospital which has better services it is in the standard of an international hospital,they told Patrick if he wants his wife alive and probably the baby too,then he had to take her there.By faith Patrick moves his wife to Nakasero hospital and she gets admitted there,by this time her baby is 6 months and  the doctor diagnoses something else he called Impetigo Herpetifomis Gestationis, and he tells Patrick they have to take the baby out of Schola and put it in the incubators and it will be safer there than in the inside of the mother who is not eating and is on serious drugs,that is when he tells Patrick that taking care of the baby for four weeks in the incubator and treating the mother too will take the full cost of 16000$ US,that is when I wrote first about Schola's case on Woman In Crisis,this was a bomb on Patrick because he doesn't have such amount of money,only God can do a miracle like that.
Two days later as they were waiting for the baby to make 30 weeks so they can take it out. Schola gets premature labor and she gives birth to a dead baby,before the baby comes out,the doctor tells Schola that the baby may not make it,and Schola still had a lot of faith and told the doctor that God is in control,she even told the doctor not to be

Schola: how she looks now

worried.I believe just like I believed and hoped that God would make a miracle and resurrect my baby Hunter  for me so I can be his mother again,Schola believed the same until her baby came out dead and she was told they were going to bury her baby but she could not go because she was very weak.this is when Schola breaks down,it was real,she had lost her first baby,she had lost what she had been holding onto so dearly,the life she was carrying,her friend who kicked her and reminded her that she was still alive even though she was in this pain.,I receive a call from my friend Agnes Twoli Schola's matron and friend too ,she is the director of Womenfirst,and she tells me that we just lost the baby,I broke down and cried,I couldn't contain it any more. Schola is in pain,she needed her baby with her,at least in her or at least in the incubator,

Schola in her present situation

but not under the ground,no God,this is painful,I wanted to go to Schola there and then,but i knew i had no words for her,I knew i couldn't face her,I knew I couldn't stand the look on her face,I announced there and then about the death of this little angel,and most of you friends of Woman In Crisis,responded by praying for her,thank you so much,a friend wrote a message immediately for me to take to Schola,that message was as if it was written to me, every time i face a mother in crisis of loosing her baby,my angel Hunter comes back in my heart and brain immediately,sometimes i cant control it,but all you do with me is very important because it ministers to all these mothers and to me too,i must admit it means a lot to me doing this ministry.thank you for standing with me.this ministry was born after I lost my sweet angel,baby Hunter Ushindi  Birungi,it is Hunter foundation ministry,it means a lot to me whenever i see a mother being helped,I feel like my baby's loss was not wasted, at least something beautiful came out of it,and others are being blessed through the loss of this precious life.Thank you again friends of WIC.
Now after Schola looses her baby,it downs on me that most of the big bill that the doctor had charged on them was for the baby's stay in the incubator for 4 weeks,so when i went to see Schola,the doctor says right now her bill is 6,000,000 shillings which is about 2500$ US,and it will increase with time,.I am requesting you to please stand with Schola in this manner.contribute to her treatment so that we can have her back home.she is still in a bad condition,this is how she is looking right now,she feed through NG tube,we need your support,and you can send it to this address :
                                                                      Next Generation Ministries
                                                                         29940 Dhooghe road
                                                                          Colton,OR 97017
and please when sending your donation ,mark Woman In Crisis on the memo line of your check,and you will receive a tax deductible receipt for that.Keep Schola in your prayers.
I gave her the book HEAVEN IS FOR REAL By Todd,and I trust it will help her a lot.Thank you Melissa for sending those books,it is a ministry to mothers in Crisis.
God bless you all.

IS THIS WOMAN IN CRISIS????

Rita with herbs smeared on her by her mum

I am always getting overwhelmed at what all this is about.I don't even know what to say anymore,because what I thought I meant by CRISIS is exploding more and more and I am wondering.

Rita and her Mum  room for sleeping and sittingroom too

It is 10:30pm and I was already asleep,I picked the phone and it was Agnes Twoli ,the director of Womenfirst ,my friend and co worker,I volunteer in her organisation which helps also empower women in living sustainable lives.I wondered why she was calling me that time,because it is very unusual of her calling me at night,she sounded sad and shocked at the same time.She apologized for calling that late and then she tells me something like "WE HAVE A LADY IN CRISIS HERE"I sobered immediately,and sat ,she went on:" this lady is in serious pain,"and I was literally hearing someone screaming at the back and I wondered what was happening,I asked her if I could see her the next day.
The next day I went to the village outside Jinja town called Namulesa where the offices of womenfirst are,and Agnes briefed me about this "Lady" called Rita Namakika,here is a brief story of Rita

Rita is 17 years old and dropped out of school three years back due to lack of tuition fees. Her father and mother divorced ,the mother got married to another  man who  has a wife and children.

Rita's baby deep alseep down on the matress

Rita's mother is a housewife,so Rita went to her father who is a fisherman and while she was there                                         another fisherman got her pregnant and she was sent back to her mother, now two weeks back she had her baby boy,thank God the baby is alive and kicking. Rita's baby's father rejected them and told her never to go back to the island where he lives, he told her that he was going to send her help,which he has never sent. Rita has developed serious infections in her breasts and no one knows what they are but they look horrible.Her breasts now each weigh about two kilograms and it has serious wounds all over the nipples,she cant feed her baby,and she is screaming most of the times. The sight is terrible,looking at her small body and all that she is carrying. Rita's mama,cant afford to take her to the hospital and so they are home in pain and she is using herbs on the open wound ignorantly hoping it will heal.wow!
Agnes managed to get her some antibiotics as she could afford,but Rita needs to see a doctor and have a check up,because no one knows what is happening to her breasts.

Agnes,Rita and mum this is where Rita sleeps with baby

Nerima and her husband after losing baby

She was sleeping down on a mattress and her baby with her when we came in, they were both surrounded with all stuffs, like cups,clothes,jerrycans,and,you can see how genuinely poor they are. I felt my heart went out to this young teenage mother.
The father of Rita's baby is a married man and has a family of his own.




WOMAN IN CRISIS is finding out more different types of crisis that women most especially here in Uganda go through during pregnancy, before birth,during birth,and after birth. And God is just showing me how limited my understanding of the woman in crisis that He meant has been:
I thank God so much for showing me this beautiful teenage mother in her sorrow state and positioning me for this.By the grace of God,WOMAN IN CRISIS,is going to help Rita get all her treatment and see to it that her precious baby is in good condition so that we do not loose this beautiful gift from God.

Saida with her baby after Woman in Crisis came to rescue

I  know by now I may be loosing the meaning and definition of the" woman in crisis",but I believe God has a beautiful purpose for each of these mothers who are going through different crisis because of their babies with a living baby or a dead baby.I know if Rita "aborted" her baby,she would still be enjoying the deceitful love of the father of her baby,but right now she is facing the worst because she made the decision to give life to her baby even as young as she is.If Saidah never gave birth to her baby her poor husband would not have abandoned her in the hospital after being asked to buy drugs for her to have her surgery started,but she decided to give life to her baby even when she knew that her husband was not able to take care of them,and if Nerima aborted her baby,she would have her bladder in place and her husband would not have to cry and beg the nurses because they didn't have money for medication,but she decided to give her baby life and though she lost her baby.
This simply says,these women are in crisis because they treasured the lives God put in their womb,and therefore decided to go all the way even when their conditions are not near any of my and your imagination,the poverty they are in would make one ask how they have survived all the way.
and now God has placed WOMAN IN CRISIS in such a position to show these precious mothers that GOD CARES FOR THEM EVEN WHEN THEY DO NOT KNOW THAT HE IS RIGHT THERE.
Thank you all who are giving faithfully to this cause and may you be blessed more and more.Thank you all who feel that God is asking you to join us in this cause and be the Jesus in the life of this woman in crisis,your gift is most welcome and highly appreciated.
I took some fotos of Rita,but not sure whether I should post it,so I will post may be one half one so I don't disgust some of us who can't stand the real appearance of her chest.
 MAY THE LORD WHO REWARDS ALL OUR GOOD WORKS REWARD YOU AND ME WHEN HE STARTS REWARDING HIS SERVANTS.Always remember I am in the field but you are with me in the field through your prayers,advice,and financial help.GOD BLESS YOU .

HOW FAR SHOULD WOMAN IN CRISIS GO????????

Nantume, on a plain bed

As usual ,I report for the ministry at the hospital,and they tell me that my previous patient had been discharged,I get to say good bye to her and pray with her too,then I get to sit at the table so i could get updates from the staff nurse and just then I notice a woman sleeping on a bed that was just bare,no sheets and her baby was just wrapped in some material which looked like papers or may be they are used in the theater for cleaning up the baby,but this baby had no cloth on it not even a blanket yet it had been born the previous day at 6 :20 pm and till 2pm the next day it was naked and not washed and the mother was also just sleeping on the plain bed.

Natume with the bedsheets and clothes we bought her

I ask the nurse what was going on,and she tells me that the husband of this lady "Nantume Saida" brought her the previous day to give birth and when they were told that she was to be taken to the theater,and he was asked to go and buy catheters,and cannulars and other staff,he went away and he never showed up again. till that time i came they tried to call him on his mobile phone,but he never responded,and later on he switched it off completely.

Nantume trying to smile after receiving all the gifts

WOOOW! was my expression,and I walked to the lady she was looking too sad,I greeted her and asked her how she was feeling,she had a beautiful baby boy!,i touched the baby and to my surprise it was naked completely not even a sheet on it,Oh My God! tears were rolling in my eyes!I asked where her husband was,she told me ,she didn't know and she dropped some tears,she told me her husband is a fisherman,i asked her to direct me to her home so I could pick the baby's staff and some bed sheets for her,she told me there is nothing for the baby,all i have is in that bag,i tried to look in the bag and there was nothing but,her dress.

Lyzette and the baby after she dressed him up

NANTUME IS NOT FALLING IN THE CATEGORY OF THE WOMEN THAT I WORK WITH,WOMAN IN CRISIS WORKS WITH MOTHERS WHO HAVE LOST THEIR BABIES,NANTUME HAS HER BABY,"this is what was running in my small brain.I looked at the whole lot of needs this woman had,and my little mind was scared of taking her on,but I then remembered what Paul Hunter had told me just a day before about faith and worry,he said something like"YOU DON'T HAVE TO WORRY,JUST TRUST GOD FOR THE PROVISION"

Bubba looking great in his beautiful blanket and clothes

and I was feeling troubled about this woman and her baby,complaining that she is not among the ones according to me that I have termed "WOMAN IN CRISIS"i heard a still voice in my heart it was like i was talking to myself but so strongly,it said "CRISIS IS WHEN YOU HAVE YOUR BABY,IT IS ALIVE,AND YOU ARE ALIVE TOO,BUT YOUR HUSBAND THE FATHER OF YOUR BABY HAS ABANDONED YOU TO FATE,NO MEDICATION, NO FOOD,NO CLOTH,NO BED SHEETS,NO LOVE NO SYMPATHY,"this was like a bomb hit on my heart.I felt the Lord telling me this woman is in crisis,and her baby is in crisis too,and she needs help.so I told the nurses that we will take her on,I asked for the list of drugs needed for her to get the treatment and I left,went home and collected baby Hunter's bag of clothes and ran to the shop to get bed sheets and basins for the mother and the baby,soap and everything else that they both needed!,As soon as i did that,my heart felt lots of peace and joy,and I fell in love with this mother and more in love with this baby.
I had to visit my food lady again and when I came back,she was so happy that she even afforded to get off her bed,we laid the bed,I dressed the baby,and the brought tea and food to her.She was only thanking and thanking,I told her to be thankful to Jesus.Then I get the information from the nurse that Natume is to stay in the hospital for ten full days,woow! I get a little worried but I admit it before God,and He gives me the peace again!

Lyzette and nantume and bubba,third visit!

Woman In Crisis,had to look after Saida Nantume for all these days,and also for her baby!!!!
Thank God for sending all of us to be the hands and the feet of Jesus to these loving women!
Nantume will be discharged tomorrow,but will have to go with the catheter and come back after 2 weeks,Woman In Crisis will need to follow her up!
her husband has never shown up at all!
THANK YOU FOR GIVING TOWARDS WOMAN IN CRISIS.
Remember,I am in the field but we are helping together because you are giving,the need is overwhelming everyday,but God is faithful always!
THANK YOU FOR LOVING THESE MOTHERS WITH ME!

TO WHOM MUCH IS GIVEN MUCH IS REQUIRED

TO WHOM MUCH IS GIVEN MUCH IS REQUIRED!

friends giving me support when i was in the hospital
Melvena and Betty

This year lots of good and beautiful things have come my way
 and moments that I have wished would never end,there have
 been also bad things that have come my way and moments
I have always wished never came and wish to forget.
ALL THINGS WORK TOGETHER FOR GOOD TO THOSE
 WHO LOVE THE LORD AND HAVE BEEN CALLED FOR
 HIS PURPOSE!
This scripture has had a meaning in my life from the first time I read it but this year God has enlightened it and illuminated it more and has brought it to make meaning in my life.

Family loving and caring for me after the loss
Paul and Pam Hunter

It all begun early this year when I lost my beautiful baby
I lost myself for some good time and some really good months,and
I believed that I would never find myself again.I can say it was the most horrible time in my life,And during this time of the loss,our parents and friends Paul and Pamela Hunter were around and had hosted the team from Oklahoma,SO GOD USED EACH OF THEM TO SHOW ME HOW MUCH GOD LOVES ME AND CARES FOR ME,they loved me,cried for me and with me,they supported me in all   ways,spiritually,psychologically,emotionally,physically,and financially,it was so amazing that they stood with us till the end of everything and even now they still ask and pray for us.IMAGINE I WAS GIVEN THAT MUCH,AND NOW THAT IS HOW MUCH THE LORD IS ASKING ME TO GIVE TODAY TO THE CRYING MOTHERS WHO LOOSE THEIR BABIES.

This sweet woman is called Edith,she is a mother of four other children beside this baby whom she has lost this time.I find her on her hospital bed ,she sees me coming toward her,she gives me this smile and i greet her back with a smile.I begin by asking which baby it was,she tells me a baby girl,and i ask her what happened ,she starts relating the story and at the end she concludes by saying"I am strong,I am fine,I am well,and everything will be OK." for a moment I didn't say a word but just looked at her and when she lifted her face to see why i was quiet,our eyes met and she broke down and begun crying seriously,I could not hold it,this time i was leaking too like Dad Paul Hunter always did when he came to see me,so we both were in tears and i held her hand and said it is OK,let it out,it is your baby,just let it out,i understand you!wooooow!
Believe me,before the loss i had,I would never do this with or for anyone,but after my loss,God has brought out beauty out of ashes.But always remember ,i am in the field with our Lord because you gave and you are still giving to this ministry.GOD BLESS YOU!
MY FAMILY AND FRIENDS,YOU WERE THERE FOR ME AND CRIED WITH ME,TALKED TO ME,LOVED ME,PRAYED FOR ME AND GAVE TO ME AND FOR ME,AND NOW I AM GIVING OUT WHAT YOU SOWED IN ME!

Paul Hunter crying with me
Hannah and Robyn crying too

A friend who has always been there for me
Jeff 

After crying with Edith,she had a bright face and I begun sharing about my book from Melissa that I received through Pat"HEAVEN IS FOR REAL"and I told her that she would see her baby and even carry her one day when she is called back home to our Father since she is born again!she was very happy and full of joy by the time I left her.Thank you Pat for bringing that book and also for giving it to me.
I FIND JOY AND FULFILLMENT IN DOING WHAT GOD HAS SENT ME TO DO!
I love you all my family here and far !
Apology:i dint take any pictures with Edith ,we have one camera we share Jeff and I,so Jeff had to take it to do some work I went without a camera so no pictures for Edith and I!

JUST ON TIME

It is Monday morning and i have to go to the hospital and spend some time with these mothers who have lost their babies and yet they are still in the same ward with those who have their babies.Yes!I leave home all smiles and set off to go and share my time with these women i have so far fallen in love with,they are not happy women,hardly give you a genuine smile,and mostly sorrowful from the inside out,you can easily feel their sorrow though they are not very free at grieving it out.
i am never sure of what to find there at the hospital because some cases are "simple" and others are very "hard"depending on where this woman in crisis is from.some times i do more of the listening and other times more of the talking,then more of the doing,.

this particular morning i was not sure of what i would find there so i prayed and left for the hospital,on my arrival i was received by this nice midwife and the in charge of the two wards i am working with .they were asking me ,where have you been?we had very serious cases,and we still have some,i was lead to those women,one had lost her mind due to the loss of her baby and was in shock,the other was not in shock of loosing her baby but in shock of not knowing how she was going to get treatment without any money and no hope for any money to come about.WOOW!
i talk to the lady who had had a mental shock and prayed for her,then moved to Nerima,the lady who had no treatment. I had over heard the husband begging the Nurse to release them because they were not going to have any treatment since they had no money.
She was sitting on her bed with a polythene paper spread out on her bed and she was wet,because her bladder was leaking throughout,and she had no money for a catheter,she had begun to smell because of that.

Nerima and her husband Were 

I tried to talk to the husband to go and look for money so his wife could get the treatment,he squatted and said,i have nothing and nowhere to go,just let us go back home,so i told him we were going to get the catheter.this man asked me "what??"and before i left to go and buy the catheter the Nurse tells me that actually they didnt even have any medication for her,so she wrote a list of drugs to be purchased,and that was not enough i was told that Nerima had not even had food to eat ,believe me i was getting overwhelmed now,i looked at the nurse and she gave me a look that expressed something like "that is what i was talking about!!"So i quietly move out and got to the pharmacy to bring the catheter and drugs.In our hospitals here we run short of everything and the list gets endless,from the needle to the antibiotics and more.This cost me 96000sh which is about 39.2USdollars and then i had to get her containers and book a lady from the hospital restaurant to bring her food and tea daily and one plate of food was to cost 3000sh which she needed twice a day and a flask of tea was to cost 1000sh she needed two a day the total came up to 8000sh per day about3.2USdollars a day and she was to stay for two weeks,but after praying for her,she stayed for only 6days,so i went to the hospital everyday until she was discharged and i had to call her and check on her since she was discharged with a catheter because of her bladder..Nerima gave her life to Christ while i was attending to her at the hospital and she confessed that she wanted to join me on my side of salvation from her side of islamic,it was the best time in my moments with her.I will keep you updated about Nerima's life.

Nerima,and Were and Lyzette,at the hospital.

thank you all who stood to contribute to this ministry,i am in the field yes,but we are ministering together because you gave,thank you for giving.
the challenge i found was that according to my budget,i was supposed to use 100000sh per month which is about40.8USdollars,but i have had a case like this thrice whereby the needs are just too much and i have ended up using that amount just in one day!weeeeeeeeeew!

 in Nerima's case i used about42.3 US dollars , just for the first day and i had to take her on for the whole week whereby i had to include my movements and communications,calling the nurses and Nerima's husband .woow! I get overwhelmed,I sometimes try not to get involved in all the details of these mothers but i am aware of the needs,that is my biggest challenge,trying to work within my budget yet being able to help as much as i can!
Nevertheless,i am so grateful to God and to you all who are standing with me in this cause of this crying mother!she went home but she still needs treatment so that her bladder can function well again.